Adultery is Officialy a Buisness

Ladies, one of the greatest form of communication is the World Wide Web,. For many of us we use it to enhance our looks by finding the hottest fashions, what beauty tips will work for this particular season or where can I get that specific look for less. It is no secret that we also use the triple W not only keep in contact with close (or not so close) friends and family, but also to discover and converse will mass groups of people who have the same interests. And whether we like to admit is or not we use the web in attempt to find love. But just as much of the triple W has been beneficial to use as individuals or society as a whole it doesn’t come without consequences. Not only do we have to worry about schemers trying to steal our identity, or pedophiles trying to reach our precious children, we now have to worry about out significant others using this communication phenomenal to find someone else other than ourselves to satisfy there needs.

The web contains a plethora of information which means that there is a website for just about anything so you have to very specific for what you are searching for. We all have tried to type in a simple, innocent phrase such as farm animals into Google, and we got websites for bestiality when all you wanted was the lyrics to Old McDonald had a Farm. And there are websites such as Match.com for those who have given up on meeting by chance. But what if I told you that there was a website that blatantly promoted ADULTERY. Well, THERE IS. Let me explain.

I was surfing the web and decided to visit MSNBC.com to catch up on some news and the first story that popped out to me was one titled Adultery site not the end of marriage written by Brian Alexander. At first I thought that it was a “Gotcha Bitch” website that people would sign up and try to try and cheat but a notification would be sent to their significant other( I am all for that) informing them of their faithfulness inabilities. But after reading the full mind boggling article it clarified that is actually a website promoting and making profit of adultery.

AshleyMadison.com is a website geared towards married people who are looking to have sex with other married people (who are not their spouses). To my understanding, the website layout is similar to a single dating website, where people register, make a profile, and search through thousands of potential “dates” to find one (or several) that intrigues you. Furthermore you purchase “credits”. Now you can purchase a $49.00 packaged that give you 100 credits, a $149.00 package worth 500 credits, or a $249.00 package worth a whopping 1000 credits. Oh, and how great is this, the website states that if you purchase the $249 credit package then they GUARENTEE THAT YOU WILL HAVE AN AFAIR or you money back.

Oh and I am not done yet ladies. This website is SO BOLD that not only did they have a billboard in Time Square in NY, but they also tried to have a Superbowl commercial. The billboard featured the AshleyMadison.com tagline “Life is short. Have an affair”. There was so much uproar over the billboard that it was taken down after only 3 days.

As for the Superbowl commercial it consisted of a woman on a date with an asshole-ish male who was presumed to be the woman’s husband. At the end of the commercial the woman glances across the restaurant and makes suggestive eye contact with another male. At this point, the voiceover announces “Isn’t it time for AshleyMadison.com?” While AshleyMadison.com is hardly the first website to try this, it is the first that is gaining so much popularity for the fact of its advertising and marketing campaign.

To be blunt, while I believe that everyone has the right to make money (in moral and legal senses), I think it’s an abomination that a company would capitalize adultery in this manor. While every individual has basic rights, to start and operate a business, but shoot a business, which promotes such distasteful and destructive concept to be held accountable for any detrimental aftermath that is a result of this business transaction? Marriage is suppose to be sacred whether you believe it should be from a religious standpoint of based of moral and emotional principle. So how can a business encourage an act that is not only a sin, but an act that can demolish a family, traumatize children, and dishevel psyches?

I don’t know the answers but a lot of questions arose from reading this MSNCB.com article. So I propose these questions to you? Is the act of marriage purely a business transaction, a financial foundation, or a commercial concept, that the idea of love is only a false slip cover over the reality of it all? Or is love still a part of the equation but its role is no longer to enhance the relationship, but to make money off of it?

Sippin on Haterade

I was sitting with my man the other day cuddling and being all cute while he was flipping through the channels. He stopped at BET and of course a rap video was on. Immediately a man with pants that looked like he had a load of crap in them, with a shirt that I don’t even wanna know how may sizes too big it was, and Bling Bling that could cover my college tuition 3 times over, bombarded the camera. While he was grabbing his nuts and talking about how much he can drink and how it’s a hard knock life, I was captivated by the ‘video chick’ in the background. Now before any one gets any ideas let me clarify why my eyes were on her.

As I watched the girl I couldn’t help thinking how “perfect” she was. Her hair was beautiful, her face was flawless, and her body was…. well lets say even I had to say “God Damn”. And the funny thing is, is that she was only on screen, and yet, I still got so angry at her. I was hatin’ and hatin’ hard. I thought, why is it that “ordinary” people try so hard to look perfect whether they are trying to impress a potential boo or just to keep up appearances for their man, and yet there are those select few who look like…well… lets face it, the perfect character of a wet dream all day everyday ( to us at least).

My thoughts wandered further to those perfect characters and how they seem to appear at events, clubs, lounges, or wherever we “ordinary” people try desperately to look our best and they just take the spotlight with so much ease its sickening. And as soon as you see one of these characters, you get mad the rest of the night trying to find all, if any, of the character’s imperfections to make you feel better about yourself. Now wifeys, I know some of you may say “Oh no, not me. I am very comfortable with myself. Yada yada yada” But let us be real. You may be comfortable with yourself overall, but there are some cases where a certain character’s hair is just on point, or the outfit is just right that might make you a little jealous and thus making you a little salty. It perfectly natural especially in today’s world.

So I decided to have a conversation with myself. You know, one of those, I said, “Self?”. Self said, “ Hmm?” conversations, and I thought to myself that in most cases the female is NOT worried about me or what I am wearing, doing, saying, or even the group I am with. Hell, she most likely doesn’t even know I am in the same venue as her. And even after this self-conversation, I know next time I go out, wherever it maybe, a perfect character will be out shining me and the cycle will continue all over again. So I ask, will women, ladies, and wifeys alike be able to one day soon dump out the cup of hater-ade , refill their glass with champagne, and enjoy a hate free evening? Or will we have to wait until we are 60 something years old, to not worry over these childish dilemmas in order to find something else to occupy our minds and emotions with?